Posted in March 6, 2010 ¬ 8:14 pmh.wonky73No Comments »
I have a dream. I’m not going to tell you what that dream is right now. Several years ago I decided to pursue that dream. I did this almost out of the blue and without much forethought. Not anybody who knew me could predict the outcome. I was my usual lazy and unmotivated self and it ended up being just an extended vacation. So this time I am doing the Slackers Guide to Self Improvement before I make the life change. I am not doing these changes for the mere sake of the change itself. For example, I am not trying to live frugally just for the sake of spending less money, but so that I can live on less money. This goal seems to have motivated me to change more than just wanting change for change sake. Only time will tell.
Posted in February 18, 2010 ¬ 5:49 pmh.wonky73No Comments »
This article gets a little weird at times but does a good job of capturing why I started the slackers guide to self improvement.
Courageous people are still afraid, but they don’t let the fear paralyze them. People who lack courage will give into fear more often than not, which actually has the long-term effect of strengthening the fear. When you avoid facing a fear and then feel relieved that you escaped it, this acts as a psychological reward that reinforces the mouse-like avoidance behavior, making you even more likely to avoid facing the fear in the future. So the more you avoid asking someone out on a date, the more paralyzed you’ll feel about taking such actions in the future. You are literally conditioning yourself to become more timid and mouse-like.
But there’s something else going on behind the scenes, isn’t there? That tiny voice in the back of your mind recalls that this isn’t the kind of life you wanted to live.
Don’t die without embracing the daring adventure your life is meant to be. You may go broke. You may experience failure and rejection repeatedly. You may endure multiple dysfunctional relationships. But these are all milestones along the path of a life lived courageously. They are your private victories, carving a deeper space within you to be filled with an abundance of joy, happiness, and fulfillment. So go ahead and feel the fear – then summon the courage to follow your dreams anyway. That is strength undefeatable.
Yes at times it reads too much like an Oprah special but it does spell out the thinking that led to the slackers guide to self improvement. A couple of years before I started this adventure I had the realization that I was getting old, was out of shape, in debt, and doing nothing of importance with my life. My life was work, eat, video games, sleep, work, and repeat. You can read my journal entries from the time about how I wanted to change. I referred to it as living with intention. Not just drifting through life waiting to die, but having a purpose and a goal that would drive my decisions and life. It took me two years to actually start doing that and I admit it’s not been an entirely smooth effort. Old habits keep asserting themselves. Curse you bw3 and you vile video games. But progress is being made. Note I haven’t mentioned yet what my goals and drives are, maybe some day in the future. Till then.. wonky out.
Posted in February 4, 2010 ¬ 8:01 pmh.wonky73No Comments »
Where have I been for half a month? Busy rolling out the new website at work. When not busy with that I’ve been playing video game to unwind. But that’s all live now. So I have time again. I actually have on my hard drive the unedited video files for the next video. I should check when I shot that stuff. Hold on. ….. wow.. that video was shot January 3rd. So maybe I’ll get that video edited tonight. So I am back. I want to post things more often not just the weekly video. So I am hoping to get three post a week up, maybe two. You’ll notice that I stopped the daily picture posts. Mostly because I am lazy but there is a non lazy excuse. I noticed they were dominating the blog and pushing the videos off. Since the slackers guides are the whole point for the blog.
I had the realization that I was getting old, was out of shape, in debt, and doing nothing of importance with my life. My life was work, eat, video games, sleep, work, and repeat. You can read my journal entries from the time about how I wanted to change. I referred to it as living with intention. Not just drifting through life waiting to die, but having a purpose and a goal that would drive my decisions and life. It took me two years to actually start doing that and I admit it’s not been an entirely smooth effort. Old habits keep asserting themselves. Curse you bw3 and you vile video games. But progress is being made. Note I haven’t mentioned yet what my goals and drives are, maybe some day in the future. Till then.. wonky out.
